Dating & Acquaintance Relationships

Facts to Consider 

  • In many cases of sexual assault, the offender is a man the woman is dating. This is commonly called date rape. In other cases, the offender is someone the woman knows, perhaps a co-worker, an employer, a neighbour or a friend. This is known as acquaintance rape. Although date and acquaintance rape is no less a crime than rape by a stranger, it tends to be ignored or denied by people because the offender is known to the victim. 
  • Date rape has the lowest reporting rate of all forms of sexual assault. It is estimated that only 1% of all date rapes are reported to police. (1) There are many reasons for this including: failure to recognize date rape as sexual assault; feeling responsible in some way for the assault; fear of not being believed and shame at having been violated. 
  • The Canadian Panel on Violence Against Women reports that 31% of sexual assaults occur in dating and acquaintance relationships. (2) 
  • The majority of date and acquaintance rape victims are young women aged 16 to 24. (3) 
  • Four out of five female undergraduates recently surveyed at Canadian universities said that they had been victims of physical or sexual violence in a dating relationship. Of that number, 29% reported incidents of sexual assault. (4) 
  • Research indicates that a shocking number of young men and women believe it is okay to coerce a woman to have sex. In a recent Toronto study, 31% of males and 22% of females agreed when asked, "If a girl engages in necking or petting and she lets things get out of hand, is it her own fault if her partner forces sex on her?" Another study found that 60% of Canadian college-aged males said they would commit sexual assault if they were certain they would not get caught. (5) 
  • A study of 304 Toronto secondary students found that one-fifth of the young women had experienced at least one form of assault in a dating relationship. (6) 

REFERENCES 

(1) Diana Russell, Sexual Exploitation: Rape, Child Abuse and Workplace Harassment, California: Sage Publishing, 1984.

(2) The Canadian Panel on Violence Against Women, "Changing the Landscape: Ending Violence, Achieving Equality," Ottawa, 1993.

(3) Helen Lenskyj, "An Analysis of Violence Against Women: A Manual for Educators and Administrators," Toronto: Ontario Institute for Studies in Education, 1992.

(4) W. DeKeseredy and K. Kelly, "The Incidence and Prevalence of Woman Abuse in Canadian University and College Dating Relationships: Results From a National Survey," Ottawa: Health Canada, 1993.

(5) Lenskyj, 1992.

(6) Shirley Mercer, Not a Pretty Picture: An Exploratory Study of Violence Against Women in Dating Relationships, Toronto: Education Wife Assault, 1987.